The maladies of youth include aversion to advice. It applies to almost all of us, more of it in our early adult years when peer influence is greater than golden words from elders. I was resistant to advice too, I used to sit with a flat face and blank eyes before relatives and acquaintances who would lecture me on various stuff, some of them even unimaginable. Things were better with my parents though. Still, at times, during a long dark phase in academics, advice was something I’d be intolerable to.
When I was in the last year of my Master’s degree, there was a lot going on – classes, lectures, projects, thesis, experiments, exams and confusion. Few of our professors wanted us to go abroad for further academics and motivated us with their advice. A few others wanted us to pursue doctorate under them, to work in their lab and be guided by them. My classmates were divided into three groups, the first two wanted academics in and out of the country and the third group opted to search for Government and Private sector jobs.
I used to scratch my head daily while pondering over my experiments for thesis. I wanted further academics of course, but where? Weighing the pros and cons of both required a lot of research over the internet, countless cups of coffee and sleepless nights. I was perplexed. I fretted over my exams as well. My plants in the thesis experiment tried to cry out loud at me, “Look at us, o human! Feed us please.”
Finally, I bit the dust and asked my father to give advice on the matter. He didn’t take much to ponder as he already knew the dilemma I was facing. Not only matching dry pros and cons, he asked me what I wanted and urged me to go for it. He made me believe that what I wanted could be achieved and would be the correct decision. I followed him and the results weren’t what he expected but in the long run, I was content with what I did and with my decision. I went abroad and though I didn’t complete the degree, I earned a lot of experience and friends.
It was only the #SachchiAdvice from my father which made the decision so easy.